The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
Be gentle to all and stern with yourself.
Quality is not an act, it is a habit.
To be a good loser is to learn how to win.
I can, therefore I am.
Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.
Who seeks shall find.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.
Well done is better than well said.
Always desire to learn something useful.
So I really did stop and change what I saw I was about, and really try to put that principle into play as the center of everything - my friendships, my marriage, my career, my family, my way of being in the world. And that changed everything for me.