The dog that trots about finds a bone.
Do not weep do not wax indignant. Understand.
Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.
Be gentle to all and stern with yourself.
Quality is not an act, it is a habit.
Be thine own palace, or the world's thy jail.
Never complain and never explain.
Either you run the day or the day runs you.
Who seeks shall find.
If you think you can do it, you can.
Perhaps, all writers walk such a line. In general - as we all do in our dreams - I believe I put something of myself into all the characters in my novels, male as well as female.