The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
Who seeks shall find.
Well done is better than well said.
After a storm comes a calm.
Never complain and never explain.
Leap, and the net will appear.
Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.
To know oneself, one should assert oneself.
The dog that trots about finds a bone.
Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.
Perhaps, all writers walk such a line. In general - as we all do in our dreams - I believe I put something of myself into all the characters in my novels, male as well as female.