If you're going through hell, keep going.
To know oneself, one should assert oneself.
It's always too early to quit.
If you can dream it, you can do it.
Be thine own palace, or the world's thy jail.
If you think you can do it, you can.
Either you run the day or the day runs you.
Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.
Do not weep do not wax indignant. Understand.
What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.
Perhaps, all writers walk such a line. In general - as we all do in our dreams - I believe I put something of myself into all the characters in my novels, male as well as female.