The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
To know oneself, one should assert oneself.
Who seeks shall find.
The dog that trots about finds a bone.
Do not weep do not wax indignant. Understand.
You never know what motivates you.
If you're going through hell, keep going.
After a storm comes a calm.
Know or listen to those who know.
Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.
I've done an informal, anecdotal survey about marriage, and I've found no evidence that it brings happiness.