I think a lot of people who feel as though they desperately want to be married oftentimes simply desperately want to have a wedding.
I myself have never been enchanted by the dream of the white wedding, and, heaven help us, the expectation that this exquisitely catered event should be 'the happiest moment' of one's life.
I don't think you can come into your wisdom until you have made mistakes on your own skin and felt them in reality of your own life.