Accident counts for as much in companionship as in marriage.
Marriage is not simply a romantic union between two people it's also a political and economic contract of the highest order.
As somebody who, in my second marriage, insisted on a prenuptial agreement, I can also testify that sometimes it is an act of love to chart the exit strategy before you enter the union, in order to make sure that not only you, but your partner as well, knows that there will be no World War III should hearts and minds, for any sad reason, change.
I think it's unfortunate that there exists only one path in America to complete social legitimacy, and that is marriage. I think, for instance, that it would be far easier for Americans to elect a black president or a female president than an unmarried president.
Men go into marriage with virtually no expectations whatsoever. Ten years later, the men are delightfully surprised to find out that it's actually kind of nice, and the women have sort of had to take a nose dive from what they thought it was going to be.
I was a bartender for a long time, so I know how to make drinks, but I'm more likely to offer them than to have them. I think this is one of the reasons why I get to live longer than my great-grandmother did, and why I get to produce more writing than she did, and why my marriage isn't in dire straits.
I wanted my marriage to work, but it didn't.
Take this marriage thing seriously - it has to last all the way to the divorce.
I didn't think marriage worked. I thought everybody who was married was secretly miserable - that it was something they just put up with for their children.
For me working on the marriage and not making the easy choice of cheating was something that I could not do.