The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
If you're going through hell, keep going.
Never complain and never explain.
Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.
Things do not happen. Things are made to happen.
Only the educated are free.
Do not weep do not wax indignant. Understand.
Leap, and the net will appear.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.
To be a good loser is to learn how to win.
I personally have always found the Unitarian faith a source of comfort and help in my daily life.