The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
Be gentle to all and stern with yourself.
Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.
Either you run the day or the day runs you.
The wise does at once what the fool does at last.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.
To know oneself, one should assert oneself.
Only the educated are free.
Do not weep do not wax indignant. Understand.
Leap, and the net will appear.
Caring for children is a dance between setting appropriate limits as caretakers and avoiding unnecessary power struggles that result in unhappiness.