The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
Be gentle to all and stern with yourself.
Well done is better than well said.
Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.
To know oneself, one should assert oneself.
I can, therefore I am.
If you're going through hell, keep going.
Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.
If you can dream it, you can do it.
Be thine own palace, or the world's thy jail.
Beauty is only temporary, but your mind lasts you a lifetime.
But as I was saying, from my experiences, I think men tend to be more timid in expressing their feelings for you. Regardless, I always prefer a friendship first and foremost.