I used to hurt so badly that I'd ask God why, what have I done to deserve any of this? I feel now He was preparing me for this, for the future. That's the way I see it.
We have domesticated God's transcendence. We often learn about God at about the same time as we are learning about Santa Claus but our ideas about Santa Claus change, mature and become more nuanced, whereas our ideas of God can remain at a rather infantile level.
The face you have at age 25 is the face God gave you, but the face you have after 50 is the face you earned.
I've looked on many women with lust. I've committed adultery in my heart many times. God knows I will do this and forgives me.
Man's sin is in his failure to live what he is. Being the master of the earth, man forgets that he is the servant of God.
I really am pretty happy with what God gave me.
Discernment is God's call to intercession, never to faultfinding.