The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
Either you run the day or the day runs you.
Well done is better than well said.
After a storm comes a calm.
Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.
By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.
Who seeks shall find.
Do not weep do not wax indignant. Understand.
To be a good loser is to learn how to win.
Wherever you are - be all there.
Perhaps, all writers walk such a line. In general - as we all do in our dreams - I believe I put something of myself into all the characters in my novels, male as well as female.